Now, imagine waking up to a knock on your door one of those mornings your spouse was away for a reason or another, you opened up and it was your second kid, he or she walks in after you gave your consent to wanting to have a discussion with you.
After few minutes of silence and just staring at the tiles on the floor of your room as though seeing it for the first time, courage was mustered, head raised, and eyes looking straight into yours and then came the below question in a sharp shoot:
WHY DID YOU MARRY YOUR SPOUSE?
WHY DID YOU CHOOSE SUCH FOR ME AS A FATHER/MOTHER?
Don't answer that question, I was just thinking out of the box.
Now to the topic, it is obvious that in life we will most likely belong to two families before our death (not all though).
One of such family was imposed on us, the name we are made to bear and hundreds of people we are made to appear alongside with on the family chain.
Our father, mother, siblings, grandparents, uncles, aunties, nephews, nieces and cousins fall under this category.
So for the good in them we enjoy, for the flaws, we endure with patience.
Then come a time when we get to decide upon a family, with "mere" words of mouth and little physical requirements, we create a new family chain, most times we are unaware of it as when we think marriage, we only see a spouse.
Before you say "will you marry me?" What and what did you consider?
Before you said "yes I do" what and what did you consider?
Now take your answer to this and feed it to the kid asking above, how comfortable are you saying it?
Cus here lies a family you choose, your wife, Your kids, your grandchildren, your in-laws, all became family after a decision you made.
BE CAUTIOUS OF THE REASONS BEHIND WHY AND WHO YOU ARE IMPOSING UPON YOUR OFFSPRINGS AS FAMILY.
"Everyone is a Shepherd and will be asked about his flocks..."__hadith.